The Ultimate Decision: I find Kathleen Parker’s latest column to be very interesting. Besides conveying that marriage is the bedrock of a civilized society, she links that institution to father’s rights.

It is known that men today suffer in divorces, and their rights as fathers can be whitewashed by a liberal court system that panders to the modern anti-patriarchal movement. This has been shown statistically, and we have all followed these stories at some point, or even know a few men who have been through the divorce ringer.

But what about this case between preganant Tanya Meyers and her boyfriend? Should he be able to force her to carry his (presumably) baby to term? Kathleen says, “From a woman’s point of view, it is unconscionable that a man – a former boyfriend no less – could prevail in insisting she give birth to his child. Women in this country, thankfully, are not required to serve as child-bearing vessels for men.” Hmmm. Make sense? And what if it isn’t even his child, something no one will know until after childbirth.

The thing is, pregnancy is so easy to prevent these days. The woman, most surely, can make sure this doesn’t happen. However, doesn’t the man bear the ultimate responsibility when he chooses to have sex with a woman? For instance, does he know – beforehand – if measures have been taken? Does he care? Does he ask? If he is told that there have been measures taken, SHOULD he take for granted that this is the truth?

Guys, some women use their sexuality or pregnancies as a weapon of containment against men they seek to marry them, care for them, or just to provide solace to their life that otherwise lacks any companionship. Some women NEED men around to have any self-esteem. My point is, when a guy has sex with a woman he is not married to, he damn well knows that he very well may make a baby. He must therefore always be prepared in such a case. It is HIS decision that ultimately decides whether or not he ends up in court fighting his latest one-night-stand on her abortion attempt.

Today we witness utter stupidity and irresponsibility as unmarried folks – guys and gals – are out there producing like rabbits and having convenience abortions as a consequence . And remember guys, not only is the abortion decision likely out of your hands outside of marriage, but also, even if she has the baby, as Kathleen relates, “Moreover, as a matter of simple biology, women bear the larger burden in the child-bearing equation. Having sex does not a father make, but carrying a pregnancy to term and giving birth does make a woman a mother. Nine months of another human being growing inside one’s own body changes more than a woman’s dress size.” This is typically the determinant in custody cases outside of marriage; what else would anyone expect?