The Desperate Nonloner

Saturday, December 15, 2012
Posted in category Just Stuff

This is a very compelling quote from the wonderful book, Party of One: The Loner’s Manifesto, by Anneli Rufus. The reason that it is so irresistible is that it fits a few people I know:

By contrast, the average nonloner seems able to stand hours and hours with almost anyone. Sometimes it seems they would rather have anyone around than no one. The absence of friends, at least companions, is by their lights an abomination. The result, from a loner’s standpoint, is that many nonloner friendships are matters of default. Of convenience. Such high tolerance for company, we might argue, makes for much lower standards.

Perfectly said. And they have no clue as to how desperate they act.

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5 Responses to The Desperate Nonloner

  1. George says:

    December 15th, 2012 at 7:42 pm

    Zap. That hits the heart.

  2. Wade says:

    December 15th, 2012 at 9:04 pm

    stated another way: no company is better than bad company! :)

  3. Pam Maltzman says:

    December 15th, 2012 at 10:39 pm

    But hey, cats (and other pets) are good companions, and frequently better than a lot of human dregs out there. If my sig. other and I ever split, I’ll just become a crazy cat lady… I’ve got 6 of them now, and I’m practicing up! LOL! Believe me, better alone than with certain people!

  4. Otaddy says:

    December 15th, 2012 at 11:07 pm

    I gotta read this book.  No company is almost always a good thing.  I tried to eat lunch by myself the other day but a coworker had to ruin it.  

  5. DavidBrennan says:

    December 18th, 2012 at 1:08 am

    Yeah, being physically around each other is utterly….Primal!

    It seems silly at times, but this is why solitary confinement is the worst punishment: people would rather be surrounded by hopeless convicts than alone.

    There’s a cool moment toward the end of the movie ‘I, Robot’ where this guy who invented robots notes that, when placed together in crates, these (fictitious) robots somehow always end up clustering around one another, even though they can’t speak or do anything. The idea was just to show how wanting to be around others is a part of consciousness.

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